Yin and Yang has been a fundamental philosophy of Chinese culture for centuries.
Yin and Yang has been a fundamental philosophy of Chinese culture for centuries. It is the idea that in nature a duality exists. All things exist in an inseparable contradictory balance; fire and water, day and night, dark and light, old and young, male and female. These contradictions must be balanced for there to be harmony.
We live in a world where everything is being politicized, and everything is being thrown out of balance. Feminist extremists in the name of “equality” often seek to destroy the masculine deeming it the great evil of our society. Not all feminists and certainly not all women feel this way, but there exist within the feminist movement, extremists that hate men with extreme prejudice. Sadly, it is the extremists that are dominating the dialog that represents modern feminism and education.
Their bigotry begins by targeting very young boys, discouraging them from being who and what they are by nature. It continues all through the education system up to the highest levels and it then it spills out onto the streets in protests and sometimes in violent riots. Recently they marched wearing vagina hats and costumes spewing hatred towards men. Some are so extreme that they suggest committing gendercide suggesting that we need to “kill all men.”
This demonizing of the male half of the population is very real. You can see it on television where many men in sitcoms are depicted as clueless idiots who are lucky enough to be paired up with a super human women that save the day every time they mess up. Even as you are reading this universities across the country are holding conferences on how to combat toxic masculinity. Several universities offer classes where they teach toxic masculinity as a course. These are major universities like Duke University and Ithaca College teaching students that just because you are a man that means that you are poison. Our school systems have become hostile towards the idea of boys growing up to become men. In their effort to force boys to be something that they are not they are throwing off the natural balance.
Masculinity isn’t poisonous. Masculinity is natural. Furthermore, masculinity is a positive force in this world and it should be celebrated and cultivated in our society, not demonized and disenfranchised. There is nothing wrong with being male and people should not have to go through life being guilt tripped or insulted just because they are. They most certainly should not get discriminated against or have their life threatened just because they are male.
But I didn’t decide to write this to go on about politics or to complain about the changing landscape of our culture. I decided to write this because I believe in a universal law. The law of the balance of nature. The Eastern philosophy describes this as Yin and Yang, but history shows us that many cultures have noticed the existence of this balance. There are always opposing forces. There is always a duality to things. These are seemingly contradictory forces, which both oppose and compliment each other. I write this because I believe that the chaos we are experiencing in our country is happening because people are upsetting the balance in many parts of society.
One area that the balance is being thrown out of wack is in the so called “battle of the sexes”. To many extremists have come to see the opposite sex as their enemy. The opposite sex is not your enemy. We are quite simply two sides of the same coin. We need each other. Men and women are meant to be team mates in the great cosmic challenge that we call life. Instead we have a bunch of feminists fomenting hate and division that is causing nothing but chaos.
One of the reasons that I chose to use images of volcanoes as an ongoing theme is because like men volcanoes are perceived to be destructive. Indeed it is true that they have the potential to destroy, (and women do as well) but they also have the potential to create. When the masculine energy is working in harmony with the feminine energy that power to create is magnified greatly. Much like the balance that created this island. When the forces of nature work together in harmony beautiful things can and will happen.
Everything contains complementary energies. They are two opposite yet complementary forces that in the Eastern philosophy came to be known as Yin and Yang. Yin cannot exist without Yang nor can Yang exist without Yin. These two forces are never separate. Night looks very different from day but we cannot have one without the other. In fact they complete each other making what is considered a day to be whole.
Have you ever wondered why the yin and yang symbol contains two dots? It is meant to reflect the undeniable connection between the two. Yin is a part of Yang and Yang is a part of Yin. As long as the two forces work together in harmony then they swim together like two fish swimming in a circle, swimming in harmony; two forces working together.
But some will say that one side or the other is wrong, or that one side is destructive. That is what happens when the balance is broken. That is what happens when the energies within us are denied. We all contain masculine and feminine energies, but one or the other dominates. So we are meant to partner with our opposite. We are meant to compliment one another, to work together as a team.
In harmony our energies are opposites, but equal. Each contains the seed of the other so that energy can transform if need be. When the energies are working together then they flow together as a seamless whole swirling in harmony and power.
There is an ebb and flow in nature as one event flows into the next. Night gives way to day. Day gives way to night. Seasons change from winter to spring to summer and to fall. On and on the energies flow balancing and rebalancing. When the harmony falls out of balance we see chaos. Sometimes this is brief like the thunderstorm other times it lasts for years like war. The cycles can be long or short, but the dynamic is always the same.
To understand this principle is to understand something about the nature of the universe. All things great and small operate in cycles of Yin and Yang. By now you are perhaps wondering what this all means to you. Sure you can see Yin and Yang in the ever changing seasons or in the great forces of nature, but how does matter to you?
We are all very busy in our modern world with our cell phones attached to our ear, and the illusion of reality distorted by a storm of media and misinformation. With all of that noise it can be difficult to tell what is real and what is not. To understand the balance is to understand how to tell the real from the false. It is a way to find healing for many ailments. It is a way to solve personal conflicts and to calm the mind. It is a way to find meaning when hope seems lost. It isn’t like some magic wand that you can just wave to make your problems go away, but with understanding it can become a useful tool. Learning to see where the balance has been upset helps one know what work is needed to reset the balance.
So how does this relate to feminism? How does this all matter to our modern world? It matters because one of the most fundamental relationships of the natural order, the balance of masculine and feminine energy is one of the most, if not the most important relationships to humanity.
I have heard some argue that we are hard wired to respond to the opposite sex. But I don’t really see it that way. The way I see it the male and female energies are designed to work together in harmony. They are two parts of the same whole. To resist this natural flow can result in dire consequences. I believe that each of us can sense the truth of that instinctively. Choose to ignore this to your own detriment.
In each of us is the potential to destroy and to create. In each of us is the potential to do both good and evil. Each of us wakes up every morning and we decide who and what we will be on any given day. One can choose to be happy, or unhappy. One can choose to do good things or to do evil. One can choose to create or to destroy. One can strive to achieve balance in their activities or they can choose to upset the balance. I have come to believe that good and evil is really just a product of harmony and chaos. I don’t see good and evil as a part of the balance, but rather as something that can happen when the balance is either maintained or thrown out of whack.
There are a lot of things which are produced by harmony and chaos. It takes some discernment to understand when something is part of the primal forces or when it is simply a product of harmony/chaos. Sometimes it is difficult to tell because the mechanics of these forces can become very complex like one gear turning a series of gears one right after the other to produce some final result. To understand Yin and Yang is to be able to trace things back to their source sometimes.
We are each and every one of us responsible for the decisions that we make in life. One can choose to live life as a victim, constantly blaming all of their problems on others or one can choose to accept the responsibility which is theirs. Playing victim doesn’t get you anywhere. No one respects that mindset and it will throw your energies out of balance. That isn’t to say that there aren’t true victims in this world. There are far to many tragic things that happen in this world to deny that there are true victims. To play the victim when you are not one is insulting to those who suffer in reality and it desensitizes people to issue. In a sense one can become like the boy who cried wolf just to get attention. Eventually people will stop paying attention to these false cries for help and when real help is needed there will be none to be found. Sadly this can cause people to not care as much when a real cry for help is heard, even when that voice is someone completely different than the false victim.
Accepting personal responsibility is key to one’s personal growth. A person who refuses to do this can never really balances the primal forces within themselves and their life will always be engulfed by chaos. People who have a mindset of never accepting personal responsibility often lack maturity. They often are incapable of thinking for themselves, and they complain about everything. You know the old saying, an empty barrel makes the most noise.
The forces of yin and yang can be emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual. Sadly some people in this world become mentally and spiritually unbalanced. When the mind and spirit are unbalanced it can be an ugly thing. We see so many people with mental illnesses that go untreated. We used to have institutions where we would try to help these people, but now some of the worse cases end up homeless living on the street. A recent statistic said that about 25% of homeless people are mentally ill.
According to statistics about 77% of homeless people are male. About a third of those are veterans with male veterans making up 97% of that group. Drug abuse among the homeless is very high about 76% of homeless are addicted to some kind of substance. Often once a man becomes homeless it is the end of the road for this person. He will remain homeless until the day that he dies. There are no services to help them. They face hardship and discrimination on a level that most Americans cannot even comprehend. They are completely ignored. The rate of suicide is extremely high among this group of men who become overcome by a sense of hopelessness in a country that does not care what happens to them. Meanwhile the dialog is dominated by feminist extremists that hate men so much that they probably celebrate the plight of these poor people.
About 79% of suicides in America are committed by men. Let that sink in. In a country where women are twice as likely to suffer from depression men commit suicide four times as often. That is a huge disparity that nobody is talking about. I don’t think that it is a coincidence that the statistics for homeless are pretty close to the same as they are for suicide. Another statistic where suicide rates are very high is among transgenders after they have the surgery. According to a Swedish study this group is 20 times more likely to commit suicide as the rest of the population. The study does not cite any reason for this to occur stating that the reason is unknown.
Men are more likely than women to use all kinds of drugs and have a more difficult time receiving services. According to statistics about 48% of domestic violence is committed against men by women, but only about 18% of restraining orders are granted to men. According to the 2010 US census in homes where parents were divorced and one parent had primary custody with the other parent living elsewhere only 1 in 6 of these was the father. That means that fathers only get custody of their children 17% of the time. Discrimination against men is also prevalent in child support enforcement. Men in arrearage had legal action taken against them in 68% of these cases, but they only went after women in arrearage 40% of the time.
Men have power! Let that sink in. Men have power!
Men have power! Let that sink in. Men have power! Women have power to, but this is about harnessing all of that positive masculinity that makes a man be a man. The first place to start is inside of our heads. All of that criticism and noise being spewed by hateful extremist has taken its toll on men. It is time that we put that stuff in the garbage where it belongs and look at who we are.
We are men and there is nothing wrong with that. We aren’t poisonous or toxic like the extremists want us to believe. They are attacking masculine identity. They are trying to destroy our self confidence, and turn all men into a bunch of whiny weaklings. We are men, and we need to act like men. I can tell you this that most women will appreciate that. Most women are not extremists who hate men. Most women love men who act like men. Most women embrace their femininity and they want a real man, a masculine man to partner with in life. Even when people are homosexual they want someone who compliments their energy. Haven’t you ever noticed that most homosexual couples have one person who is more masculine and another who is more feminine. It is instinctive. We aren’t really whole unless we have masculine and feminine energy working in our relationships. That rule holds true no matter what your sexual preference.
DC power only utilizes half of an alternation. It only uses the positive or the negative polarity.
What about people who choose to go solo? That seems to be the latest fad in relationships. There are people choosing to marry themselves. It can work, but it reminds me of something that happened in the 1880’s. Two geniuses began a feud that lasted for many years. On the one hand Thomas Edison was beginning to build the first power plants which ran on Direct Current (DC) on the other hand Nikolai Tesla was experimenting with Alternating Current (AC). Direct current explained is only one half of the sign wave. You can have positive or negative DC and it works wonderfully in certain applications. AC explained is both poles of energy. AC is Yin and Yang in action. It is negative and positive poles working together in a powerful continuous cycle of energy. DC is a solo act. It is only half the wave form and because of that its potential is limited.
Thomas Edison executed elephants with AC current to prove it was more dangerous that DC current.
Basically Edison was more wealthy than Tesla and he knew how to talk to people better. He began a public campaign to make the public see Tesla as a crazy person. It became so prevalent that eventually all movies which portrayed a mad scientist type villain would model the characters appearance after Tesla a stereotype that persists to this day. (Think of old horror movies with mad scientists with wild crazy white hair.)
Mad scientists are often made to look like Nikolai Tesla because of Edisons negative campaign against him.
Edison tried to convince the public that AC is more dangerous than DC by doing publicity stunts where he would electrocute animals with AC electricity. While Edison won the battle and eventually bankrupted his rival he lost the war. The truth is that AC is more versatile than DC. There are simply more applications where it is useful. Don’t get me wrong. We still use DC, but the vast majority of our power needs are met by AC which harnesses the energy of both the negative and the positive poles of energy. I am not going to go into all of the reasons why, but there are real concrete reasons why we use AC more than we use DC. In a way DC is used more for precise functions. It runs our computers for example, while AC does all of the heavy lifting, powering everything from industry to our homes.
When I think of people marrying themselves I am reminded of a person bouncing a ball against a wall and catching it. Catching a ball can be fun, and it passes the time, but imagine that a friend comes over and invites them to play tennis instead. Now the game becomes exponentially more fun because it is about two people enjoying the ball together.
Jon Donne wrote a poem
No Man is an island, entire to itself;
Every man is a piece of the continent,
a part of the main.
We are all meant to be a part of something bigger than ourselves. We are meant to create families and communities. I think that is a concept that has lost some of its popularity in our modern world. It seems strange to me that some people are not willing to be a part of a family, a community, or a country, but then they want to embrace a global community. What good is some vast global community if it doesn’t have any foundation in the smallest and most basic human relationships. That would be a cold and inhumane entity out of balance with Yin and Yang.
For his wife’s 33rd birthday composer Richard Wagner wrote her an entire symphony. She was awakened that morning to the sounds of a 15 string orchestra playing on her staircase. Throughout history men have done great things and made great romantic gestures for the women that they love. When men act like men they can accomplish great things. Men have walked on the moon, created useful inventions, written symphonies, created works of art, built landmark architecture, cured disease, etc.
Through the power of their mind, spirit, and body men have explored, conquered, invented, and overcome. The unsung heroes in many of these cases are the women who were their partners in these great endeavors. Put simply if it wasn’t for the women in our lives men would often be content to sit on their butt’s and do nothing. It is women that motivate us to action. Often we do what we do because we care more about our family than we do about ourselves. That is a good thing. That is a man sacrificing his time, his strength, his creativity, his efforts, and his energy to provide for his family.
A man is often willing to go to great lengths to protect and to provide for his family. It is very sad that often that sacrifice is unappreciated and disrespected by American society.
Even worse is it something that is taken advantage of by predatory women. There are gold diggers who take advantage of men’s good nature just so that they can steal from them financially and emotionally. I know that this opinion may be deemed unpopular by some, but I know men who have gone through divorces that are living in virtual slavery. I don’t know of any other way to put it. I know men who’s financial obligation to their ex wives is so extremely unfair that they have to work themselves to death just to meet those obligations. That my friends is why I call it slavery.
I agree that men need to be responsible for their children, but when the courts force someone to pay so much of their income out that they cannot afford to support themselves something is wrong with that. Why should a man be punished for an entire lifetime just because he made a mistake and married the wrong person?
If a man’s financial obligation to child support and maintenance is so high that he has to take on extra jobs and work unreasonable amounts of overtime just so that he has enough left over to afford bologna sandwiches then the system is treating him unfairly. The family court system has become a form of slavery. What is worse the children of these men are suffering for it. When a man is constantly being forced to work then he isn’t going to have much time left over for his children. He will be exhausted when he does manage to get a moment with them.
This also takes a toll on a man’s health. He cannot see to his own physical needs properly so when he does get sick and cannot work he is done. One crisis like that can break a man in this position. When that happens often the court will not listen nor will the court will help him. That is one reason that many homeless men owe back child support.
Feminist extremists are doing everything that they can to demonize and disenfranchise men who are often just trying to survive. These are men that just want to do the right thing for their families and their communities. Often men make heroic efforts only to have a man hating extremist spit on their efforts. It is taking a huge effect on men and on families. We have divorce rates in the USA of around 50% of married couples. There is a real problem here and no one seems to be willing to address it. This doesn’t just hurt men, it hurts children. Children raised in single parent homes are more likely to drop out of school early, They are more likely to abuse drugs, they are more likely to get in trouble with the law, and they are more likely to commit suicide just to name a few things. The point is that children need both parents. Children need to have the Yin and Yang balanced in their lives.
The reverse of that scenario is astounding. Children raised in homes where there biological parents stay married are more likely to attend college. They are mentally and physically healthier. They are less likely to suffer physical or sexual abuse as a child. They are less likely to abuse alcohol or drugs. They are less likely to get in trouble with the law. As adults on average they are more financially stable and are more likely to have their own successful marriages. They are less likely to either become a pregnant as a teenager or to impregnate someone else. They are less likely to grow up in poverty and they are less likely to raise their own children in poverty. This is all according to the Bradford Wilcox Institute study on why marriage matters.
In short having the harmonic balance of Yin and Yang within a relationship is like a pebble cast into a pond. The individual benefits because life has harmony. Their partner benefits, and their children benefit. This harmony within the family ripples outward spreading to extended family, friends, community, etc. On and on the ripples of harmony carry across the pond. The same is true of chaos.
Michael Jackson a famous singer/songwriter/entertainer wrote a song called Man in the Mirror.
I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
If you want to make the world a better place then begin with the energies within yourself. Come to terms with the Yin and Yang within. When you are at harmony with yourself then you can be at harmony with another, and then another, and then another. On and on you can be a part of making the world a better place. Think about it and I wish peace and harmony to become a part of your future.
God Bless
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